“My dear brothers and sisters, take not of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,”
A common theme in my life recently has been about words. Here at Converge we take a personality test called the Pro-D, as well as a simple DISC test. On both of these tests, one of the caution areas for me is a tendency to talk to much. Now, that’s a very legitimate caution as I can certainly talk a lot, and I can be careless with what I say if I’m not careful to guard my tongue. For instance, twice this week I have hurt someone by being insensitive with my words. After both incidents, I have felt anger and frustration at myself for being so careless and hurting the other person so deeply. However, as much as it gives me great pain for hurting this person, I have realized that I seek comfort for feeling so bad about it. Even though my initial thoughts go to trying to rectify the situation, which entails understanding how my words have stung them, coming to a place of sincere remorse, and then pursuing them to apologize, the next place my mind goes is to who will be able to give me wisdom about this issue? Poking deeper at that question, I have realized that I don’t always want wisdom, but instead I seek comfort. I want someone to tell me that it will be okay and I shouldn’t beat myself up about it. Which one of my friends will tell me it’s okay and that it will pass? This is a deeper heart issue and a very serious one, because when I do this I am trying to find a way to justify my mistake. I’m trying to shove off the responsibility and say it doesn’t matter as much. Instead of dealing with the situation whole-heartedly and being completely sincere, I’ve turned the focus toward what makes me comfortable. In a phrase, I‘m being selfish, and that’s were the sin gets you.
The Bible has many verses about selfishness:
“Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
2 Timothy 3: 2-4
For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,”
For they all seek their own interests, not those of Jesus Christ.
Make sure you aren’t justifying your own sin by making it seem less of a big deal then it really is.